make a first impression!
That's why, if you want to take things further with
a woman, you need to show her your best on the very
first date. And in actual fact, there are 5 things
that men consistently do on first dates that
totally destroy their chances of seeing the woman
again, and the worst part is they think they're
doing it right!
Avoid the following 5 mistakes to increase your
chances of success on your first date:
MISTAKE #1 -- BUYING GIFTS
Bringing chocolate or flowers on a first date isn't
the best idea - especially if you've just met the
woman! She's there to get to know YOU. Women are
always asking themselves "what does THAT mean?" And
in this case it's, "He bought me flowers because he
likes me, but he doesn't even know anything about
me yet! A little suspicious.
MISTAKE #2 -- BEING MR. SERIOUS
When in the presence of a potential date, men often
become boring, instead of keeping up the friendly
vibe they have with their friends. They won’t make
jokes or laugh with the woman, they won’t play
around like they do with their friends and they
generally take things a little too seriously. Why
do men change their behavior around women, often
without even realizing they’re doing it? Because
they fear losing their only chance with the girl of
their dreams, they try and play the safe side,
which results in a “Mr. Serious.”
MISTAKE #3 -- CONDUCTING AN INTERVIEW
When men become "Mr. Serious" they often fall into
"job interview conversation mode." Make sure you
reserve questions like, "So where do you work?" or
"How many brothers and sisters do you have?" for
the future, after you've already had a lot of fun
and made the sparks fly. Instead, talk about your
hobbies, interesting stories and fun stuff. Avoid
anything too deep for a long period of time. On a
first date, it can make things a little depressing.
Talk like you've known each other for years (as if
you don’t need to do the awkward 20-questions
quiz.) Of course you can ask basic questions, but
never make it the main focus of your date. Focus on
fun.
MISTAKE #4 -- BEING TOO NEEDY & DIRECT
Without realizing it, many guys turn their dates
off by trying a little too hard. For example: Men
will lean into a woman’s personal space, and ask,
"so do you like me?" or constantly change his
opinion to seek her approval and make her like him.
Big mistake. Ironically, it's leaning back, staying
cool and calm, being a little cheeky, interesting,
mysterious and comfortable with yourself that
actually gets a woman's attention and keeps her
interested.
MISTAKE #5 -- GOING TO BORING PLACES
If your date finds the night boring, you're
finished. When it comes to having fun on first
dates, nothing is more important than what you do.
And while dinners and movies are nice, it's really
hard to leave a great impression in these settings.
Why? Because they set a very "proper tone" that's
hard to turn into fun and playful. And unless
you're a super funny, intelligent and interesting
guy, dinner and movie dates just aren't the best
place to take your date. Instead, go to fun places
like mini-golf parks, carnivals, parks, or even
better, come up with your own unique and fun ideas.
So in essence, while there are many factors to
having a successful date, a great date idea really
helps you do many of them naturally! Remember,
where you take a woman on a first date can be the
difference between a great night and a dating
disaster! Choose wisely!